Is Your Comfort Zone Sabotaging Your Success?

Work…work…work…work…work..

No, I am not quoting a Rihanna song, but the anthem of the American workforce shared by many around the world.

Do you feel as if you world revolves around a demanding workload, but you don’t have much to show for it?

If you were asked to start your day earlier, give up certain foods, spend less time on social media, or stop closely associating with people that are not helping you become a better person, would you do it?

Let’s be real. Are you ready for this?

Most people don’t believe they fear success, but most of them would be incorrect.

I will let that sink in for a minute.

Our lives rarely change because we become comfortable with our situation. We might not like it, but it’s comfortable. We know what to expect. We might be unhappy, but we know we can deal with it.

In a nutshell, we don’t like change. We also don’t like the prospect of failing or of standing out.

There were so many things that I hated about my life, but I wasn’t ready to change because I think I had the resolve to do it, and quite frankly, I didn’t want to take the risk of looking bad. I had to get real and face the facts…I was a scaredy-cat.

Here are a few of the self-sabotaging things I would do, can you relate:

  • Consistently make plans for my life, but fail to follow through on them. Whether it’s read a book a month or hit the gym five days a week, I just couldn’t seem to make it happen.
  • I’d leave projects uncompleted. This included both my work and in your personal life.
  • I had sooooo many great plans. I’d was hesitant to take action.
  • I’d struggle to make decisions were I would be solely accountable.

This probably describes most of the people you know. Can you relate? I know I had to check a few of those boxes and get real with myself. As I grew my business to become a thriving coaching I learned some helpful strategies, here are a few i will share with you:

📌 Imagine being ultra successful. Imagine yourself being even more successful than you want to be. If your goal is to make $100,000 per year, imagine making $1 million. If you want to lose 25 pounds, imagine getting lean enough that you can see your abs. Do this each night and morning in bed.

  • Make the visualization as vivid as possible. Include all of your senses. When it feels uncomfortable, stick with it and just relax. Remember, GO BIG!
  • In time, it will feel natural. When that happens, achieving your goal will be much easier.

📌 Practice standing out. Many of us fear success because we don’t want to stand out in any way. Somewhere along the way, we learned or decided that it’s better to keep our head down than to be noticed.

  • There are a variety of ways you can practice standing out in your everyday life. You can dress differently. I believe we should look the part. Try wearing bold colors or patterns. They don’t have to match. You wear the clothes they don’t wear you!

📌 Re-frame failure. Fear of success might actually be a fear of failure. Keep in mind that failure is just an undesired result. It says nothing about you. It simply means that you need more practice, more time, or a better approach. When you can view failure in this manner, there’s nothing to fear.

📌 Focus on action over thought. We can’t fear success if we don’t think. If you need to send 100 cold emails to find clients for your business, just sit down and get busy. The longer you think about it, the harder it becomes. Just decide and take action.

📌 Have a real vision for the future. Enough motivation can overcome any fear. Create a possible future in your mind that is worth overcoming any obstacle. Fear doesn’t matter if you have a very compelling future in mind.

I realize, it seems counter intuitive to fear success, but it’s a common obstacle to making sustained progress in life. Success brings attention, the unknown, and the possibility of failure.

I had to create a vision for the future that would pull me through any fears I had and learn to become comfortable being uncomfortable. It’s like wearing a bikini at the beach with a cover-up. I am a one-piece girl, after having had two children, so you feel my pain, lol. It could become so easy for me to focus on my thighs or stretch marks around my waist (warrior marks/tiger marks, however you might describe them).

The problem is I would miss out on the beautiful day or having the time of my friggin’ life. The point is, the more confident you are in your own skin, will radiate outwardly and that is what people remember.

Girl, you only have one life to live.

Don’t be like me and waste it on years of being afraid of being successful because of unfounded fears. Avoid allowing fear to limit your life. You have greatness within you!

Fulfill Your Dreams And Achieve Success on Your Own Terms

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Adrian Quintina

Adrian Quintina

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Helping Women Stop Self Sabotaging to Glow Up and Thrive. Certified Coach, Speaker, Bestselling Author, Mompreneur, Traveling Enthusiast, @realfearlessher