Do you find your self-doubts distracting? Do you find yourself second guessing your actions and decisions, or even your achievements? If you don’t address these self-doubts, these might accumulate to form negative thoughts about yourself that will ruin your confidence and self-esteem. The longer you leave them alone, the more they will feed on your sense of self- worth. Eventually, you will feel paralyzed about doing things for fear of failing.
It is always challenging to break that barrier of negativity once it has taken a strong hold in your life, but it is important that you remain strong and firm in turning it around and getting rid of your self-doubts. This is the only way for you to inject positivity in life.
Spend some time to address those doubts and understand why you feel that way about yourself. Get to the bottom of it all and you’ll know how to regain your confidence. It usually starts when you handle a challenge way bigger than those you have seen before, leading to you questioning your ability to take it on.
If you keep telling yourself “I can’t do this!” you might stop yourself from doing anything else because you’re afraid to fail. However, you have to get on with life, take on challenges, and accept whatever happens. Most of all, you have to learn from all your successes and failures.
Learn to stop yourself from thinking negative thoughts before they even start paralyzing you from doing your tasks. Every time such thoughts pop up, squish them clean and replace them with the endless opportunities that are in store for you for the day. The quicker you do this, the better control you’ll have over them. If you’re in control, you will eventually boost your confidence and self-worth.
And when you do catch yourself thinking negatively, don’t beat yourself up over it. Think about how long you have held onto this habit and how you can’t get rid of it overnight.
Every time you notice your old behaviors coming back, correct it right away and give yourself a pat in the back. Being aware of your mistakes is the key step towards transforming your life and changing your attitude towards it. You’re halfway there!
It is not easy to be completely free of mistakes, but you can make the most out of every mistake by learning from it. Don’t let your feelings of shame linger either. Give yourself a break. You’re only human, after all.
When your guards are down and you start feeling those old doubts again, win those thoughts over with a positive attitude. For instance, instead of thinking “I’m not good enough for this job!” or “I don’t do well in interviews,” think “This job is a going to be a handful, but I can do it!” or “I’m going to do well during the interview and prove to them that I’m the person they’re looking for the position.”
It also helps to write down all the good things about you and remind yourself of such characteristics every time you feel down.
You might be surprised at how many positive qualities you have more than the negative ones. Once you realize this, you will feel confident about yourself.