Destroy Insecurity and Take on the World

Adrian Quintina
3 min readAug 19, 2022

Insecurity is perhaps the biggest roadblock to achieving your goals. If you lack confidence and
certainty in yourself and your skills, you’ll never leave the starting line.

Insecurity is the result of poor mental habits and giving too much power to others. With work,
you can be a highly confident and secure person!

What causes insecurity? Babies aren’t insecure, so it must be something you've learned over
the course of your lifetime. How do we become insecure and how to we maintain insecurity
into adulthood?

There are several causes of insecurity:

1. A lack of self-esteem. If you view yourself negatively and believe that you’re incapable, you’re
going to feel insecure. The amount of self-esteem you have is ultimately up to you. No one else
can decide it for you. However, they can influence your self-esteem if you let them.

2. Relying on others to make you feel good. Approval from others is nice, but when you need it
to feel confident and secure, your feelings of self-worth are out of your control. This creates a
strong need for approval and gives too much power to everyone around you.

3. Unreasonable expectations. The people that are held up in our society are especially
beautiful, wealthy, or both. These are the people that we see in the movies. These are the
people in the magazines. It’s easy to forget that they’re a very tiny portion of the population. Avoid comparing yourself to others.

4. Insults and criticisms from the past. These negative comments may have come from parents,
teachers, peers, or anyone else from your past. Children are especially sensitive to criticism and
may have a hard time moving past negative comments.

Few people feel as secure as they would like. Your feelings about yourself and the world rarely
change without work and focus. Make the decision to let go of your unreasonable expectations
and your past hurts. The future is waiting for you.

Use these strategies to feel more secure in yourself and meet the world on your own terms:

1. Approve of yourself. You can give yourself as much approval as you choose! Notice every
time you’re hoping for approval from someone else and stop yourself. Give yourself a
compliment and practice self-acceptance. With time, your interest in receiving approval from
others will dissipate.

2. Only compare yourself to yourself. Are you in better shape than you were last month? Is your
financial situation improving? Are you experiencing gains in your social life or your ability to
play the piano? Seek improvement over your past. Avoid worrying about what everyone else is

3. Let go of the past. Think of the times you’ve been unkind or critical toward others. Does it
seem reasonable for someone from your childhood to still feel wounded by the comments you
made so many years ago? Your comments weren’t relevant, and neither were the comments
anyone made to you. Forgive everyone from your past and enjoy today.

Feeling secure is about removing the power you allow others to have over you. You don’t need
the approval of others. You don't need to compare yourself to others. The past doesn’t have to
define you today.

Identify the challenges that are creating feelings of insecurity in your life and face them head-
on. You can be more accepting of yourself and trust yourself more than you do today. As an
added bonus, the better you feel about yourself, the better you’ll feel about others too. Refuse
to allow insecurity to tarnish your future. Make the decision today to trust and love yourself

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Adrian Quintina

Helping Women Stop Self Sabotaging to Glow Up and Thrive. Certified Coach, Speaker, Bestselling Author, Mompreneur, Traveling Enthusiast, @realfearlessher