Avoid these confidence-destroying traps

Adrian Quintina
3 min readAug 3, 2022

Who doesn’t want more confidence? Seriously? We want to walk into a room and own it, right?
Through research and observation, I realized there are just some things confident people just
do and think, but they also avoid thinking and doing certain things that could be self-
sabotaging. If you want to have more confidence, consider avoiding self-sabotaging behaviors,
too. It’s easier to climb a mountain without carrying a rock. Drop the habits and other behaviors
that burden your ability to feel confident.

Without these obstacles getting in your way, you’ll create a new ceiling for your confidence.
Make it as easy as possible to have confidence in yourself.

Avoid these confidence-destroying traps:

1. Negative self-talk. You can’t feel confident and say negative things to yourself. If you want
to feel positive about yourself, it helps to have a positive outlook. Negative thoughts drain away
positive emotions, including the positive feeling of confidence.

2. Self-criticism. Remind yourself of your successes and keep self-criticism at bay. Be your
own best friend and supporter.

3. People that sabotage them. Most of the people in your life don’t want to see your success
rise too far above their own. If you want to maximize your self-confidence, it’s best to avoid
these people as much as possible.

4. Complaining. This self-sabotaging behavior is insidious. It suggests that you can’t fix the
challenges in your life. Instead of complaining, work on a solution. Know in your heart that you
can handle any challenge in your life and do it.

5. Seeking attention. Confident people don’t need a lot of attention from others. If you’re
confident in yourself, you’ll be too busy taking care of business to worry if others are paying
attention. Only those lacking in confidence need attention and approval.

6. Worrying about what others are doing. Be confident that you have a good plan and are
capable of executing it. Let everyone wonder what you’re doing instead of worrying about what
they’re doing.

7. Allowing a lack of information or certainty to stop them. People that lack confidence need
100% certainty. Those that are confident can take action with far less than complete
information. 70% is usually enough to get started. Be confident and get busy.

8. Avoiding making decisions. Rash decisions usually turn out poorly but taking too long to
make a decision is ineffective, too. Confident people make decisions more quickly and easily
than those that are lacking in confidence. Indecisiveness is just a form of procrastination.

9. Relying on luck. Luck is for those without the confidence to take responsibility. Wish, hope,
or pray all you like, but keep moving your feet. Confident people will take luck when they get it,
but they don’t rely on it. They know they will succeed without it.

10. Making excuses. Excuses are a way for those without confidence to justify quitting. If
you’re confident, you don’t look for excuses. You look for solutions and then implement them.
If you catch yourself making excuses, ask yourself why you’re doing it.

How confident are you? What would happen if you could become the most confident person
you know? The difference in your life would be staggering.

Confident people avoid self-sabotaging behavior. If you want to banish self-sabotaging behavior
to become more confident, get this free guide here. How confident do you want to be?

You don’t have to keep struggling with perfectionism, fear of rejection, self-doubt and other behaviors that
block your financial security and wellbeing. I created a free guide that will help you banish self-destructive behaviors to get you out
of the death loop of confidence-crush sabotage.

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Adrian Quintina

Helping Women Stop Self Sabotaging to Glow Up and Thrive. Certified Coach, Speaker, Bestselling Author, Mompreneur, Traveling Enthusiast, @realfearlessher